Extra sensitive to discipline and compliments
Some children respond strongly to both negative and positive parenting styles
PhD Candidate Meike Slagt studies how sensitive children are to their upbringing: what works well for one child, does not work at all for another. This goes for tough punishments and discipline, but for warmth and compliments as well. How can we explain this?
In Meike Slagt's research field, the metaphor has become famous: you can roughly classify children as dandelions and orchids. Orchids are sensitive to what happens around them, while dandelions respond less strongly to their surroundings.
Many research publications on this subject have appeared in the past decade. : 鈥淚 look at how children's sensitivities to parenting styles depend on their temperament, early personality characteristics. That is a continuous standard, from low to high and everything in between. This has never been researched statistically like that. In our analysis, we saw that many studies focus on a small part of the spectrum. For instance, they look only at the effects of either a cold parenting style, or a supportive one.鈥
"It's important to observe how the same child responds to different circumstances."
On top of that, a lot of research is about groups: 鈥淏ut Johnny might only respond strongly to harsh discipline, while Pete is primarily sensitive to warmth and support. That's why it's important to observe how the same child responds to different circumstances. For my own PhD research, which goes beyond this analysis, I try to measure the entire spectrum for a group of children.鈥
The strength in vulnerability
The meta analysis made by Slagt and her group offers a transcending conclusion: 鈥淭his is the big picture. I think it's telling that so many research projects using different methods all point to the same conclusion.鈥
And that conclusion is? Children with 'difficult' temperaments appear to be more sensitive to both negative AND positive environmental influences. Especially children who displayed the temperamental characteristic negative emotionality as babies, which is a tendency for emotional instability. Slagt says: 鈥淲hat interests me most is the hopefulness of this premise. Maybe we should look differently at people that are traditionally seen as being vulnerable to stress: they could be sensitive to everything in their surroundings, including positive things.鈥
This became especially apparent when researchers assessed parenting styles by observations, instead of by means of questionnaires. 鈥淲e think that observations are a bit more reliable than questionnaires that are filled out by the parents themselves. Their answers do not only reflect the actual situation, but also how they see themselves at that point in time. How do children experience their surroundings, and what sort of surroundings do parents think they provide? Those are not necessarily the same things.鈥
Be yourself, there are plenty of others
Slagt's research can yield important results, which educators can benefit from as well: 鈥淔irst of all, there is the message that people are different. We don't have to expect the same response from everyone. It is important to recognise that.鈥
鈥淭raditional psychopathology primarily looks at what is wrong with people. We investigate why people are the way they are. How does the match between people and their surroundings work? We don't like it if people in our society are aggressive or depressed, fore example. But these behaviours or conditions may have been functional in our evolutionary past.鈥
鈥淟ess sensitive people might need different or more intensive help.鈥
Many questions remain. Do sensitive children respond strongly to their surroundings their entire lives? Or only during certain periods, such as puberty, when a lot of things change on a biological level?
With this knowledge, it's easier to make sure that people get the help they need. Not just the very sensitive children, but the 'dandelions' too: 鈥淧eople who are less sensitive might benefit from different or more intensive help.鈥
Meike Slagt will defend her PhD dissertation Differential Susceptibility to Social Contexts: Putting 'For Better and For Worse' to the Test on 3 March, 2017.